“LEADERSHIP, FUN & HAVING CERTAINTY is all you need”
I don’t chase, I attract..
Gentlemen, as the saying goes: “Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.” Thus, if you wanna stand out, be different. STOP doing the same things that other guys are doing.
Tonight, I was invited down to Club V4 (a Thai club) at Windsor Hotel by these 2 nineteen year old Singaporean chinese girls whom I met previously, Patricia(P) & her friend Joyce (J). I know that these girls are young impressionable girls who like the attention of guys. Today I saw it first hand..
So I reached at 4am, P brought me over to the table. As I said hi to P and J, their cute bestfriend, Kit, interrupted & introduced herself to me. She was exuding a strong sexual vibe and was giving me that (DTF look) sexual eye contact. At the table, there were 2 other guys who were their friends. Introduced and vibed with the guys.
Soon after, 2 more guys came. Total 5 guys & 3 girls at the table. Typical scenario, lol. I found out the dynamics/ logistics of the people at the table by asking Patricia.. I wanted to know what’s the deal with Kit. Patricia tells me that all of them are just friends.
As soon as I turned to Joyce, she pointed at the 2 guys flanking her, and says that those are her boyfriends. I congratulated them for being so lucky. She playfully points at the other guy at the table and says that he’s her boyfriend too. I honestly didn’t care cause I knew she was testing my resolve. (Remember: fun & certainty, guys!).
I knew that they wanted me to give them attention, like the other guys were doing and being touchy with them. I wasn’t there to do that. Clearly, they had more than enough attention from the chodes anyway, and I don’t chase.
So I left the table and explored the club for a bit before coming back. Vibed with everyone at the table, and all I needed to do was to STAND OUT, using the Attributes (Leadership, Fun & Certainty). Patricia was being very touchy with me, and so was Joyce as she made excuses to talk to me throughout the night.
[Sidetrack :Gentlemen, even if you forget the 2 other attributes, never forget Leadership. Girls are always looking for that man who is decisive, who can lead, who takes initiative. She is looking to YOU to lead! Other guys don't do that, especially in Singapore. Don't be wishy-washy.]
So as we left the club and were standing at the hotel lobby, all 3 girls initiated to hug me. As I embraced Kit, I smelled her hair and before letting go, told her that it smelled great (it really did). she then proceeded to take her hair and let me smell it again. Found out that Kit stays near me, so I told her that we were gonna go for supper, just the both of us.
Hugged Joyce and Patricia goodbye also. They asked if they were gonna see me tomorrow (they invited me to club with them) I told them no.
As we said goodbye, all except Kit & I started walking in the opposite direction (the guy was gonna send them home). Clearly, Kit wanted to come with me. One of the guys who was with Kit earlier was apprehensive in leaving
Kit & I alone. When he didn’t look, I took Kit by the hand and walked away. She played along and was laughing. Soon after the guy joined us saying he wanted to go for supper. Fine by me.
So we walked to my car nearby, and before we left, Patricia called Kit asking where we were gonna go for supper. I told them East side (only Kit & I stay in the East lol). They say that they wanted to come and were being wishy-washy about it.
Here’s the part that I was willing to walk away: As Kit & Pat were still on the phone being wishy washy, I told them that they are free to join, if not I am still going, with or without them. Bad logistics, which I cannot fight against, and Kit eventually said that she was tired. So I left.
At the end of the day, I do not wanna be the guy who sent the girls back all the way to Sembawang & Woodlands just to be in their “good books”, and the other guy who took a taxi just to send Kit back. Because I know that at the end of the day I will be the one that the girls remember and come back to.
Remember, all you need to do is STAND OUT..
Few lessons to learn here, guys:
- All you need is to display Leadership & Fun (and certainty when it’s needed)
- ****Very IMPT!!**** Never underestimate the power of the attributes. When in doubt, just remember the attributes. Keep it simple!
- Steady Eye contact. Nuff’ said.
- When you Lead, do not be wishy-washy. Be decisive.
- Power of the Walk Away. Be willing and okay with walking away. Circumstances may not allow anything more to happen immediately (i.e tonight), but think Big-Picture. Sometimes it needs patience and better logistics.
The best way to learn all these lessons is to EXPERIENCE it yourself. Although this whole interaction lasted less than 30mins & I already knew exactly what to do, it is always a good reminder, and to stay sharp and grow through more experiences.
Hope you guys learnt something from this and enjoyed reading it!