CREATING MOMENTUM

Only 2 genders exist in the world: Men & Women. Since the beginning of time, God created Adam and Eve.

If you are not an Eve, you are an Adam.

Men –> Are born to LEAD.

Women –> Are wired to be LED.

There is a saying: “Male by birth, Man by choice”

Guys, LISTEN UP. The biggest mistake men make right after they’ve gotten that elusive phone number is that they do not FOLLOW-UP well!

Sure, you’ve put in the ‘work’ to finally get her number.

Here’s the truth: getting a woman’s phone number doesn’t mean shit.

Here’s how it usually goes: 

1. Man talks to Woman

2. Man gets a woman’s phone #

3. Instead of contacting her immediately, he waits 2-3 days.

4.  Finally, he contacts her. Guess what? She doesn’t answer, can’t remember which dude you were, flakes on your 1st meeting.

Sounds familiar?

As a man, you need to ask her out.

You need to take the LEAD.

You don’t wait “2 or 3 days” to contact her just because you read it somewhere (or you ‘don’t wanna come across too needy’).

If you like her, contact her whenever you want. If you wait, she’s gonna think that you’re not interested. You are gonna make her wonder what happened. She’ll ask her friends what went wrong, she’ll think about it.

She’ll doubt herself, she’ll doubt you. She’ll be worried that you’re just another guy who’s out to ‘play’ her.

She’ll wonder: “He seemed so interested but his actions aren’t, so is he?”

When you meet a woman & get her contact information. Don’t wait. Build that momentum. Ask her out the next time the both of you are free.

Remember: KEEP IT SIMPLE.

Here’s the truth. Dating is all about MOMENTUM.

I want you to think for a minute about all your great relationships & dates you’ve had in the past. The one reason it worked is because there was MOMENTUM.

Women are all about momentum.

Hollywood’s best Romantic movies are all about momentum;

Man meets woman at Starbucks. They have a great conversation. They exchange phone numbers. He calls her the next day to ask about her day. He set’s up a date over the phone. They meet up, she doesn’t flake. They have a great time on the date. At the end of the 1st date, he sets up a 2nd one with her the next week. They meet up again. They eventually establish a great relationship and are happy together.

See where this is going? It’s a love story waiting to happen.

Push past your fears, GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD and create that magical story between you and that dream girl of yours.

She wants to be swept off her feet. If not you, then who?

- Laveen a.k.a Romantic Rogue

Chief Executive Coach, 

Maverick Man

Are you lazy when it comes to women?

Majority of men are guilty of this (myself included, at times.) In my experience, this is a major reason why men don’t get the women that they want.

WHY? You don’t want her bad enough!

This is the factor that determines whether you get the woman, or the next guy who took action. In dating, it never gets you anywhere to be PASSIVE. Waiting for a woman to take the first step is as good leaving fate in someone else’s hands. You need to be a PROACTIVE dater. In fact, this relates to living life as well. Simply put, if you don’t go for what you want (in this case, that really beautiful woman that has caught your eye), someone else will get her!

Have you ever experienced the pain of this? I DID. I’ll share with you an incident that happened to me late last year. I always remind myself of this, whenever I feel lazy..

Back in 2011, while I was still working at a fashion boutique in the city, a new coffee joint moved into the premises next door. Most of the time when I worked, I would pop by to grab myself some frappes and chat with the staff. Soon enough, the manager and I knew each other by name, and so did most of the other staff there. Now, there was this really cute girl who worked there, who would always make the drinks I ordered. Her name was Samantha. Now, she had a short bob-ed haircut (just like Victoria Beckham in the 2000′s), and from what I noticed, seemed to always be hanging out with a butch (lesbian). So automatically, I assumed she was lesbian.

Each time I walked past the shop, I would check her out and I always wanted to get her number. But because of all the excuses and self-doubt that I had put into my own head, I sabotaged my own chances EVEN BEFORE I could do anything. I told myself things like: “she’s lesbian, doesn’t like men”.. or “she’s attached”.. or “i’m afraid the manager will know that I’m hitting on her”.

Fast forward 8 months later. This was way after I was no longer working at the fashion boutique. During a friend’s house party, I bumped into her AGAIN. At first, I couldn’t recognize her because she grew her hair longer. Guess what? She was at the party because her now-boyfriend is friend’s with the host of the party. They had only recently become a couple. When I saw her with that guy, I learnt my lesson, big time!

Although I met Samantha way earlier that her current boyfriend, I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY for not taking action, and being lazy. Nevertheless, this is a good lesson that I use to remind myself time and time again.

Our fears might be there, our self-doubt might try to sabotage us. But at the end of they day, it is about pushing past all of these unnecessary chatter, and GOING FOR WHAT YOU REALLY WANT & DESERVE.

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Here’s the deal guys. Men and women are pretty much the same when it comes to what they want in a romantic relationship. As much as you are looking for someone amazing to be with, so is she! Don’t you think you deserve an amazing woman too? If your answer is YES, then act upon it! Time, tide & women waits for no man.

Remember this:
“A woman’s greatest fantasy is a MAN who knows that he WANTS her, and has a PLAN to GET her”

So the next time you meet that woman whom your heart really wants, you CANNOT afford to be LAZY. She deserves an amazing person, and so do you.

Remember the consequences: If you don’t, then someone else will!

LOOK OUT FOR MY NEXT POST WHERE I TALK ABOUT HOW CREATING MOMENTUM IS VERY IMPORTANT TO HAVE GOOD RETENTION & FOLLOW-UP’S WITH WOMEN!

In the meantime, stay safe and I will see you soon!

- Laveen a.k.a RomanticRogue