My name is Laveen.
It all started in January 2006. Aged 19, I had just gotten out of the Singapore army and was about to embark on the next phase of my life; going back to school.
Up until that point, I had never been exposed to this mysterious thing called women. Having been from an all-boys primary & secondary school meant that, in my teenage development years, I had almost-zero exposure to the opposite sex.
In secondary school, it didn’t help that I was an obese, introverted kid with hardly any friends (I can use 1 hand to count all the friends I had back then). Although many stories over recess & school assembly were shared about how the girls from the convent school & the boys from my school would somehow meet on the ‘love bridge’ (the overhead bridge connecting our schools), I was never part of the majority who had these convent girls as friends throughout my 4 years there.
I tried my very best to ‘fit-in’ by being like-able, thinking that I needed to please others before myself, and be ‘nice’ for others to like me. My lifestyle consisted of going to school, eating with the unpopular kids during recess, and then coming home where I would take a nap after lunch before waking up again to eat and watch TV for hours-on-end. The most interesting thing about my lifestyle back then was the weekly Golf sessions. (I was part of my school’s Youth Golf Program). I would look forward to ‘going out’ to the course every Tuesday and spending my afternoons there, until it was back to the usual routine in the evening.
My weekends were no better.. As an avid movie-buff, I would usually go to the movies with the same friend (my movie-buddy). I even remember going to the movies alone a few times. Apart from the movies, I would spend my weekends at my friend’s house, playing soccer with the neighborhood kids and playing 8-ball pool.
As a result of this upbringing & exposure (and lack of).. I became an introverted ‘nice guy’ who wanted to please others all the time.
As you can tell by now, my romantic life was non-existent.
The first crush I had was on a tall, beautiful female golfer 2 years younger than me, whose school was also part of the Golf Program. I would look forward to admiring her from afar every Tuesday as she practiced her swings with such poise & grace at the driving range.
Needless to say, throughout the 2 years that I had a crush on her, I never had the guts to talk to her (not even a ‘hi’)
I felt lonely, to say the least..
After coming out of the army, I enrolled myself into a co-ed private school where, for the first time in 19 years, I was exposed to the opposite sex. I enjoyed my 2 years in that school, making many great friends with whom I still keep in touch with until today. Throughout those memorable 2 years from 2006-2007, I grew & learnt a lot as a person. Despite all that, one area in my life was yet to be settled ; I was still clueless about how to get the girl that I really liked.
Here’s a backstory. In January 2006, fresh outta the army and 2 weeks into school, I noticed this very tall, fair-skinned girl sitting at my school’s reception area after school. She had straight black long hair and looked really sweet. (I remember that moment very vividly, like it was yesterday)
From then on, and for the next 2.5 years, I would have the biggest crush on her, without knowing what to do. I felt helpless, and clueless.
I realize I had a PROBLEM
I decided to get myself out of this, because I never wanted to feel this way again.
From then on, I made a commitment to be an amazing ladies’ man, the best I could ever be. I wanted to be able to get the quality women that I desired, and to be able to form quality, meaningful relationships with them.
I wanted to be the kind of man that women would be proud of having in their life.
I knew whatever goals I wanted to achieve, it had to start with me. Developing myself into that kinda guy that I envisioned. There was hard work ahead of me
I signed-up for a Maverick Man Masterclass in May 2009. Those 3 intensive days were an eye-opener for me, in terms of what was possible.
Over the next 2.5 years until today, I have honed my skills and put these lessons to work in Singapore as well as during my travels to various parts of Asia like; Hong Kong, Taipei, Thailand & China.I have met & dated women from all these countries and more (apart from Singaporean women, I have been fortunate enough to meet & date women from Korea, Japan, Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia, China & Taipei and more.. Not forgetting a girl from Denmark who studies in Singapore.).
This journey of self-development is a never-ending process. I am learning new lessons and gaining new experiences almost every day, and I have.. and will continue to work hard to be the best version of myself.
I would not have imagined my life to be like this. I’m really thankful that I took my first steps to improve my social and dating life, and for the invaluable experiences gained since then.
Today, I am also the 2nd-in-charge & Crew Captain of the ever-growing Singapore Crew (http://www.thesingaporecrew.com) community of like-minded individuals.
Welcome to my life, TODAY..
I hope that this blog serves as a reminder, on how far I have come (my progress) and how far I am gonna go from here. This journey of self-improvement & self-development is a process with highs and lows.. that’s why the prize is so valuable and I have persevered for so long.
I also hope that this blog serves as a form of motivation for my readers. If you’re going through a tough time or feel discouraged, I hope that my simple blog of my articles, lessons & experiences will encourage and inspire you.
I would like to thank all those who have helped me come this far, for all the support, advice and encouragement. Without you, I would not be where I am today.
I hope to repay all that you’ve done, through my success. And to pay-it-forward to others, just as my mentors have believed in me. That’s why I AM HERE TO HELP YOU
Laveen a.k.a ‘Romantic Rogue’
Skype ID : laveenl